Holidays are NOT for stress

In my past, I lived in a Shelter for Abuse Women(do you know this place is over crowded over the holidays?), not once but twice, both times over the holidays.  Just the name of “holidays” made me cringe and just drag my feet.  I have wonderful husband, who has worked very hard to change that in me.  Success! the last few years I have actually looked forward to it.  Learning to walk with the LORD has been my healing in this area. 

As I look around, I see men carrying a stress that is not the normal stress of day to day or regular bills, its stress knowing the holidays are coming…Ladies, they really want to give all that is on the requests list, but we really need to give them a break…When HE asks what you want for Christmas…eliminate the disappointment and hard feelings, and just tell him. THen allow him to tell you if he can make that happen or not.  Most women I know will say they want nothing..and then are angry because he didn’t see through that to mean something.  Ahhh hit a nerve huh?

Let’s set out this year looking to keep Jesus first in our thoughts and shopping. Lets give the man a break, and remember that he is not here to satisfy our every whim, and while shopping for our kids, keep it within the budget…remind them over and over that this holiday season is about giving and not getting.  Only the LORD can fill our empty voids, not our husbands, and not expensive gifts.

Entering this Thanksgiving Holiday with thanks for all that I have, (a post just on that later)and praying to be a wife that not only pleases my man, but pleases God. 


Would it not be the coolest thing to hear this holiday…

“Her children arise and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praises her.”  Proverbs 31:28   (this is what I am working on for Christmas, what I really want)



Filed under Christianity, Christmas, dying to self, family, freedom, gifts, giving, God, Grace, Jesus, life, Love, mercy, princess entries, thankfulness

13 responses to “Holidays are NOT for stress

  1. Thank you, Darla.
    It seems that it will take most people all their lives to realize that none of us–men especially–don’t know what they don’t know.
    When we ask a question, it is usually because we don’t know and are looking for an answer; and we tend to take answers at face value.

  2. You are welcome Dale. I totaly get it, and I tell every woman that will listen to me.. LOL

  3. “Only the LORD can fill our empty voids, not our husbands, and not expensive gifts.”

    Amen! Such a needed word, Darla. We really get it all screwed up in our minds. Yeah, you touched a nerve, but in a good way.

    I hope you’re feeling better. Love you.

    I’m so thankful for your husband and the loving comfort you are NOW experiencing.

  4. I just did a new post about Christmas as well. Had not read your post.
    If you want to send papa a present I can send you my list! Its just a list of wants – ha! LOL Love you my Darla! God bless! Be used of Him always!

  5. AMEN SISTER!!!!! We are on the same page!

  6. Good words, Darla. Can I just say you radiate joy?! And considering all I know you’ve walked through … what a beautiful testimony. YOU are beautiful, my friend!

    ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

  7. TheNorEaster


    Umm…Can I print that and save it? You know, like a “get-out-of-jail-free” card? I kind of can’t use it this year… 😕

  8. tam

    nor – unbelievable.

    darla – agreed a million times over!

    perfectly said, sister. i have already seen people SO stressed about giving gifts, how many they have to buy for, what theyre hoping to get. their stress stresses ME out.

    i am ALL for gift giving. what a great way to honor our Lord who gave His own life as a gift to us. but, with you, i see where the intent, the stress and motive of giving can blemish the whole experience.

    hope youre feeling better, Princess!

    love you so much!

  9. Tam- I see it too, I am not going there this year..I am going to love the holiday stressfree! LOL
    Annie- you are too sweet..thank you
    Michelle- thanks for your kind words

    Nor- hahahahahahahahaha yes you can print that on a card..let me know how it works for you 😉

    Selena- we are on the same page, sista

    Papa- love you ! buy mama something from me…pay you later.. LOL 😉

  10. I am feeling better today! thanks for the prayers

  11. Darla…. Ask my wife what happened when I decided to teach her a lesson when she answered the, “What do you want?” With “Nothing, you don’t have to get me anything.”

    She got a card and cake and that was it…. She never thought I would take her literally.

    I get an answer almost every time now, and the years I don’t I already have it figured our…

  12. Carl- I am sure it wasnt good for you for a little while either…its a girl thing..but women and men have to communicate well..instead of letting emotions run things…i know you and your dream girl figured it all out..we did ya brother!

  13. Amen for a stress-free holiday season! I am all for it. Praise God that you no longer dread the holidays and that you are spending them at home with your lovely family.

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